There are moments of the day where I think to myself, “Oh my word, it’s only 11 am, or ahhh, it’s only 2 pm. How in the world am I going to remain sane until you go down for bed!!!! I am a working mom, but I work part time which means there are many days, it’s just me and my babe. All day. I feel very grateful for the time we have together and the opportunity to work part time. To be brutally honest, I would love nothing more than to be a stay at home mom, but that’s neither here nor there. It’s up to me to keep her fed, clean, entertained, and well, let’s be honest, I’m all I’ve got to provide the same things for myself. Most of the time, she is much cleaner and more well fed than I.
She is 18 months old, and VERY strong willed. I fully acknowledge she got that from me, and I am doing my best as her mommy to make that a character asset of hers… With that being said, she tests my patience, A LOT. I am committed to gentle parenting, no raising voices, guidance vs. punishment, and lots of positive reinforcement. This is tricky, even for this gal who was told she would never have her own child. By a miracle of God, my husband and I conceived our beautiful, wonderful, and again, strong willed child.
There are lots and lots of times each day, I have an idea of what I want her to do. There are many times when that is just flat out not going to happen. As her personality develops, she and I can have a battle of wills, that well, I’m not sure what to compare it to, let’s just say it can be intense. I have to realize she is her own person, who is developing wants of her own. There is a middle ground that we find after some struggle each, and every day. It’s not about her getting everything she wants, and it is not about me dragging her along with me, accomplishing all I “think” needs to get done that day. There are days when I cannot wait for her daddy to get home, just to have someone else to play with her, bathe her, feed her. There are days I cannot wait to go to work.
At the end of the day, like today for instance, I was bathing her. We threw all seriousness and all rules out the window. We played, we splashed, we laughed for as long as she wanted. It was amazing. It made all of those moments of struggle throughout the day totally unimportant. I laid her in her princess bed, as she calls it. She cuddled her Dumbo and I nursed her to sleep. So so cute. I can hardly take it when she looks at me and says, “mommy, milk. Princess bed.” It’s too much for my heart to handle. The amount of love I have for that little girl is astounding.. As we lay there, I took it all in, as I try to every night. Her smell, the way she feels breathing in my arms, is incredible. Unlike anything I’ve ever known. Being her mommy is addicting. It’s the most important thing I’ve ever been. My heart is full as I write this tonight. I’m sitting down with my husband for dinner, we will share about our day, we will most likely quote our daughter and laugh and smile about how amazing she is and how blessed we are.